Introducing Sunday's S.E.X.y~ where life is discussed and goes on~
Thank you Jessie for baring your heart and soul, giving our readers a glimpse into Life After Divorce...
I guess the question is where do I start. Let me start about
a year before the end of my marriage. It was a hard time in my life. I was
starting to get into writing and making friends with others who shared my love
of the written word. My husband became consumed with what I was doing and
always wanting to know where I was at. I know that doesn't sound all that bad
now does it. Thing is he was critical of everything I did, to the point of
telling how things should be done even though he really didn't know much about
it. He hated my writing especially when my first book was published. Before I
go any farther let me say I know there is more than my side of this and I don't
blame or have hurt feelings toward my ex-husband for any of it.
To be really honest we were having troubles for a long time.
I was laying in bed on night and it just kind of hit me. We were not happy
together any more. I could not take knowing that I was making a man I had known
for most of my life that unhappy. I told him that night I thought we should not
be together any longer. He didn't take it well but we talked and then talked
more over the next few days.
I have to say he moved on from me rather quickly, finding a
new woman to take my place. I was shocked that I could be replaced so easily
but I tried to be happy for him. We lived in the same home for a while keeping
separate rooms. I guess the thing that really and truly ended things for me was
when I was away on a planned trip and I came home to pictures of the new woman
in my home. I was hurt by the lack of respect and I had not gone in search of a
new partner.
This was never about me finding a new person in my life and I
didn't have one. I never even tried to date until after our divorce was
final. I was left to find my way alone,
don't get me wrong I had great friends though this whole event in my life. I
didn't want to burden them with all my doubts and sadness. Though I am sure I
did at times.
It has been almost two years now and I feel stronger than
ever. I have slowly made a life for myself. Don't get me wrong I still have my
moments of doubts but I have a great group of friends to lean on and they keep
me grounded. My kids have been a huge help as well, just standing with me as
they always have. I have been blessed by those who I call friend and my family
as well.
I wanted to give you a small bit of what happened to lead up
to where I am now. I know this will help me heal even more as I write the words
coming from my heart. Maybe just maybe this will help someone else out there to
see there is hope for a life after divorce that still has real meaning and you
not a failure because your marriage didn't work out. I know today that many people go through
divorce and handle it just fine but I was one of those that never even
considered mine would not last forever.
I will be writing more in the weeks to come on different
things I have gone though over the last years being single again. Let’s just
say I was so out of my element in many ways with dating and stuff. I want to
tell you about the wonderful friends I have as well and would welcome anyone
wanting to share their thoughts as well. I look forward to telling you about my
best friend Edgar. He and Evelise have been my saving grace though everything.
Jessie~ FB
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